Assertiveness is the ability to confidently express your opinions, feelings,attitudes, and

Assertiveness is the ability to confidently express your opinions, feelings,attitudes, and rights, in a way that doesn't infringe（侵犯） the rights of others.
Many of us are taught that it is not nice to consider our own needs above those of others. If someone says or does something that we don't like, we should just be quiet and try to stay away from that person in the future.
Why is Assertiveness important?
If you don't know how to be assertive, you might experience:
?Depression - Anger, a sense of being helpless, hopeless, or of having no　control over your life.
?Resentment - Anger at others for taking advantage of you.
?Frustration - Why did I allow that to happen?
Most people find it easier to be assertive in some situations than in others. This　makes perfect sense. It's a lot easier to hold your ground with a stranger than with　someone you love. But the more important the relationship is to you, the more　ｉｍｐｏｒｔａｎｔ it is to be assertive. Assertive behavior leads to increased respect from others！
But before you decide to act assertively, you have to decide if you can live
with the results. Although assertive behavior usually will result in a positive
response (积极的回应)，some people 　might react differently.
How to be effectively（有效地） assertive:
?Use I statements. Keep the focus on the problem you're having. I'd like to be able to tell my stories without interruption. instead of You're always interrupting my stories !
?Use facts, not opinions. Did you know that shirt has a hole? instead of　You're not going out looking like THAT, are you?
?Express ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and opinions. I get angry when he breaks his promisesinstead of He makes me angry.
? Make clear and direct requirements. Don't invite the person to say no. Will you please? instead of　'Would you mind．．．? or Why don't you．．．?
?Keep repeating your point. Use a low level and pleasant voice. Don't try to explain yourself.
【小题1】The writer probably agrees that­­­ .A．you should consider others' response before you act assertivelyB．you should be assertive if you want to get good marksC．assertiveness is the ability to infringe others' rights.D．assertive behavior will bring you bad feelings【小题2】The expression hold yourｇround probably means “ ”A．reach an agreementB．insist on your pointC．keep your wordD．keep on fighting【小题3】Which of the following helps you to be effectively assertive?A．Explaining yourself in a soft and sweet voice.B．Expressing ownership of others' thoughts.C．Making requirements directly and clearly.D．Using your opinions instead of facts.A

(答案→)A 解析：短文大意；这篇短文主要论述了自信心在我们生活中的重要性以及如何获得自信的问题。【小题1】A：考查观点态度题。根据文章第一段in a way that doesn't infringe the rights of others.可知A为正确答案。CD与文章相反。B篇文章中为提到。【小题2】B：考查词义猜测题。根据第四段文意在陌生人面前比在你爱的人面前更能做到 自信，A.达成一致意见B.hold your point指的是坚持你的观点C. 履行诺言 D.坚持斗争【小题3】C：考查细节理解题。根据文章倒数第四行Make clear and direct requirements.得知C是正确答案。

这个问题我还想问问老师呢