Is there someone you hate? Well, maybe you don’t

Is there someone you hate? Well, maybe you don’t really hate them. But you get really angry every time you think of them. If you don’t let this anger go, it can turn into bitterness (痛苦).Bitterness appears when we can’t forgive (原谅) someone who has hurt us or made us angry. Someone might say or do something that hurts us. But instead of controlling the anger, we keep it deep inside. Before long, a bitter feeling begins to grow. We may think we’re hurting that person by criticizing (指责) him or her often, but we’re really only hurting ourselves.Bitterness can not only lead to serious health problems such as heart disease, but also hurt our relationships with friends and family members. No one enjoys being around an angry person for very long.If you see bitterness in your life, here are some ways to deal with it.● Accept itInstead of trying to deny your anger, make it clear to yourself and accept it. See your anger for what it is and quickly deal with it.● Stop making excuses for itYou may feel you have a right to be angry. You may think you’re right and the other person is wrong. You may even secretly enjoy making the other person look bad. But in the end, bitterness hurts you much more than the other person. The bitterness will hold you back, and the other person will go on with his or her life.● Forgive and forget itYou probably can’t completely put the anger out of your mind. But you can decide to forgive the other person. Forget it and move on. You’ll enjoy better health a

你有恨过某些人吗啊？好吧，可能你没有真正恨他们，但是你每次想起他们时你真的感觉很生气。如果你不让这些愤怒走开，愤怒将给你带来痛苦。当我们不能原谅那些伤害我们或者令我们生气的人的时候，我们会觉得痛苦。会有某人说了或者作出一些伤害我们的事情.但是，我们没有控制愤怒却把愤怒深藏心里.不久之后， 仍会有痛苦的感觉.我们也许认为我们通通过指责来伤害他/她，但是我们其实只是在伤害自己.痛苦不但产生健康问题比如心脏病，而且还会影响我们和其他朋友及家人的关系。没有人喜欢和生气的人呆太长时间。如果你看到你生活中的痛苦 有以下方式可以解决.●不要否认你在生气，接受它 明白为什么生气并尽快解决问题.● 不要找理由 你会感觉你有权利生气 你可能认为你是对的别人是错的。甚至你可能偷偷喜欢使别人看起来糟糕 但是最后 比起其他人，痛苦只会伤你更深。痛苦将使你倒退，而其他人还是继续他们的生活。● 原谅并忘记它， 你可能不能完全地不生气，但你可以下定决心来原谅别人 忘记并且往前走。你将更健康

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假如你恨什么人的话，呃，也许你并不是真的憎恨他们，只不过每当想起他们就生气而已。