I am a strong believer that if a child is raised with approval (准允), he learns to love him

I am a strong believer that if a child is raised with approval (准允), he learns to love himself and will be successful in his own way. Several weeks ago, I was doing homework with my son in the third grade and he kept standing up from his chair to go over the math lines. I kept asking him to sit down, telling him that he would concentrate better. He sat but seconds later, as if he didn’t even notice he was doing it, he got up again. I was getting frustrated (受挫), but then it hit me. I started noticing his answers were much quicker and accurate when he stood up. Could he be more absorbed while standing up?
This made me start questioning myself and what I had been raised to believe. I was raised to believe that a quiet, calm child was a sure way to success. This child would have the willpower to study hard, get good grades and become someone important in life.
Now those same people perhaps come to realize that their kids are born with their own sets of DNA and personality qualities, and all you can do is loving and accepting them. As parents, throughout their growing years and beyond that, we need to be our kids’ best cheerleaders, guiding them and helping them find their way.
I have stopped asking my son to sit down and concentrate. Obviously, he is concentrating just in his own way and not mine. We need to learn to accept our kids’ ways of doing things. Some way may have worked for me but doesn’t mean we need to carry it through generations. There is nothing sweeter than being personal and unique (独特的). It makes us free and happy and that’s just the way I want my kids to live their own life.
【小题1】Time and again the author got his son seated in order to make him .A．work fastB．go politeC．stay relaxedD．keep attentive【小题2】The underlined “it” (in the first paragraph) probably refers to .A．his son’s doing better while standing up B．his failure in keeping his son under controlC．his own experience as a school boy D．his disappointment with his active child【小题3】By this passage, the author attempts to tell other parents to .A．correct their kids’ manners from the early agesB．respect and trust their kids’ ways of behaviorsC．develop a good relationship with their childrenD．guarantee their children’s freedom at home【小题4】Which of the following would be the best title of the passage? A．Parental help with teens’ studyB．Adult influence on teen growthC．Kids’ success in their own stylesD．Friendship between generationsD

(答案→)D 解析：这篇文章介绍孩子是独立的人，有自己的行为方式，父母应该尊重接受，而不是强迫孩子按照自己的意志行事，孩子们会以自己的方式成功的【小题1】细节题：从第一段的句子：I kept asking him to sit down, telling him that he would concentrate better.可知作者让孩子坐下是为了让他更加专注，选D【小题2】猜词题：这里的it指的是下文的句子：I started noticing his answers were much quicker and accurate when he stood up. Could he be more absorbed while standing up?孩子站起来的时候更加专注，选A。【小题3】细节题：从第三段的句子：Now those same people perhaps come to realize that their kids are born with their own sets of DNA and personality qualities, and all you can do is loving and accepting them. 可知作者建议父母亲要尊重信任孩子的行为方式，选B【小题4】标题确定题：从全篇文章和第一段的句子：I am a strong believer that if a child is raised with approval (准允), he learns to love himself and will be successful in his own way. 可知这篇文章介绍孩子是独立的人，有自己的行为方式，父母应该尊重接受，而不是强迫孩子按照自己的意志行事，孩子们会以自己的方式成功的，所以C是最贴切的标题。

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